Well, to my surprise and honestly delight, Lyric has been doing such a good job being a big sister. She’s learning so much and doing such a great job! I made the decision to pull Lyric from her daycare to be home with us. Honestly, this was a move to save money and maximize my time at home with her before she goes off to preschool in the fall.
I was pretty nervous leading up to having Ermias. I was always wondering if I was going to be able to successfully manage having two small children. I watched a whole lotta YouTube videos of other moms in the same boat and they all made it look so easy.
So what’s the reality?
It’s honestly not that bad.
I mean, Ermias is a great baby. He just wants to eat, sleep and poop all day and Lyric has really matured. She considers herself, “the best helper” and she prides herself on being a great big sister. They’ve been building a really amazing bond and it’s the sweetest thing to witness.
So what are my biggest takeaways/tips after being a month in?
This is so important because you don’t want your oldest child to feel left out. Lyric once asked me if I needed her help and I said, “No baby not right now” and she totally freaked out. (Now, I have to make sure I need her help even if it’s jut holding a spoon, lol, literally whatever it takes to make sure she's included.) Your toddler’s feelings are super sensitive right now and it’s really important that you are aware of that.
I know as a new mom of multiple children it’s really hard trying to find balance. Before this new baby came into the picture, everything was smooth. But now, you’re up all night and around the clock everyday. You have to be present in both lives of your children and you have to make sure they are loved and their needs are met. The best way I’ve found to do this is to make sure your oldest has enough special time for them.
With Lyric we “play school” in the mornings and we will sometimes watch some of her favorite shows together. I just want to make sure that she knows that even though mommy is busy with the new baby, mommy still loves her and she still will and forever have my heart.
Balancing life with multiple children is a task and you can’t do it if you’re overworked, over tired and exhausted. Self care and personal time to yourself is so important. I literally get excited when I go to Target to catch a break. It’s like therapy. lol. I mean, it was honestly therapy before but now it’s super therapeutic.
But in all seriousness, find the balance. Get your husband, mom, or someone you trust to help you out and find a way to catch a break. You deserve it and you need it in order to truly be as functional as possible.